We’ll Get Along Great If Our Conversations Are Better Than the Ones I Have with Myself
Let’s be real, if I’m dating you, you have some serious competition. And no, I’m not talking about other people. I’m talking about me. The conversations I have with myself are top-tier. My thoughts flow freely, my humor is always on point, and the self-awareness? Impeccable. So if we’re not vibing on that level (or better), what are we even doing?
For my fellow sapiosexuals, those of us who are wildly attracted to intelligence— the struggle of modern dating is real. Swiping through profiles that lack substance is like scrolling through a bad playlist: full of noise, but nothing worth hitting repeat on.
If you’re nodding along, then this blog is for you.
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I’m Looking for a Healthy Obsession
Not in the “text me every five minutes” kind of way, but in the “I can’t get enough of understanding you” kind of way. I want someone who finds joy in deep conversations, who is obsessed (in the healthiest way possible) with learning my mind, my quirks, and the unique rhythm of my thoughts.
This isn’t about clinginess. It’s about intentional connection, where getting to know each other is an exciting exploration, not a chore. If you’re someone who values meaningful interactions over small talk, you already understand why surface-level dating doesn’t cut it.
The Low-Performing Thrill of Dating? No, Thanks.
Dating apps feel like a low-budget reality show half the time. You match, you chat, you unmatch. I find myself unmatching so often that I wouldn’t be surprised if the apps flag me for looking completely unserious about dating. It’s like signing up for a marathon and realizing most people quit at mile one, myself included.
For sapiosexuals, the issue isn’t just finding attraction—it’s sustaining it. We crave stimulating conversations, mental foreplay, and the kind of energy that keeps us engaged long after the first date. If you’ve ever been let down by back-to-back one-word responses, then you know what I mean.
If you’re done with low-effort connections, consider shifting your approach to dating. Prioritizing meaningful conversations, setting clear intentions, and staying true to your standards will naturally filter out surface-level interactions. When you value depth over convenience, the right connections will find you.
Getting to Know Myself: The Ultimate Perk of This Journey
While dating is an adventure, the best part has been getting to know myself better. Every conversation, every experience—good or bad—teaches me something new about what I want, what I deserve, and what I’ll never settle for.
I’ve learned that forced energy is never worth it. If a conversation feels like a struggle, if the vibes aren’t flowing naturally, I’m out. I don’t force connections because I know the right ones won’t require effort to keep alive.
That’s why I highly enjoy my own company. And when you love your own energy, you become selective about who gets access to it—whether it’s a romantic partner, a friend, or even a business connection.
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Final Thoughts: The Energy You Keep is Everything
In dating and in life, the people you surround yourself with matter. When you know your worth, you don’t waste time on connections that don’t add value. You hold out for relationships that feel expansive, not draining.
So if you want to get along with me? Bring good conversation. Keep me intrigued. Match the energy I bring to my own thoughts. And most importantly, understand that the bar is high—not because I’m asking for too much, but because I already give that much to myself.
Until then, I’ll be here, thoroughly enjoying my own company.
What’s your take? Are you a fellow sapiosexual navigating modern dating? Drop a comment—I’d love to hear your thoughts!
(P.S. If you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to check out my guided journal designed to empower, inspire, and enlighten you.)
